English Corner


Many Hollywood beautiful women prove the age is just a number.

Everything happens for a reason.

Journey describes travelling from one place to another over a considerable distance. That’s why in the test sentence we are talking about is a three day journey.

Trip is often travelling to a place and coming back the same day and so it is not usually long. You are staying in a hotel on holiday and the travel company representative will organise trips to places of interest and you will come back to the hotel that day for your evening meal.

Tour describes travelling from one place after another over a period of days/weeks and visiting various towns/cities and in the end coming back to where you started. This is also a word used on the internet sometimes described as a virtual tour when you are shown a series of pictures describing the site you are looking at.

A tour takes in several places and to travel is the journey getting there

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    For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

    People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

    When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

    1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

    This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

    It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

    2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

    This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

    By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

    3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

    Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

    We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

    4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

    Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

    It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

    5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

    This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

    When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

    Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

  2. Great Personality
    Whenever finishing an interview, I always send a thank you note to the interviewer mentioning: “I am not only a hands-on network engineer, but also have a great personality”. How to have a great personality? I googled it and would like to share it here:
    1. Confidence is key. If you are a shy person then figure out what you are afraid of, and then realize that when you are confident there is nothing to be afraid of. If you are scared of talking to people, find someone you are comfortable around and have a conversation with them, then realize that having a conversation with someone you do not know as well is exactly the same. Reassure yourself everyday that you are amazing.
    2. Be humorous and lighthearted. People will thank you for bringing some fun into their world.
    3. Always be nice. This is the most important step. No matter who you are, if you are nice, the only reason a person can dislike you is if they are jealous of you. Never be rude to people even if you are really worked up – instead write your feelings about them down and then tear it up. People don’t like mean people because it makes the person feel as though that person could be mean to them. Be nice to everyone: the nerdy guy, the emo girl, you name it. This leaves way more doors open for friendships and makes people envy you for being so brave.
    4. Always be cool, calm and collected. In every single situation you are in you always have to remember to keep your cool. Never start arguments unless it is for a strong argument and you have good argumentative skills. Never argue with people you would like to remain friends with. If you are feeling a little nervous (maybe around a new friend or a guy you like) take a deep breath, forget yourself and just have some fun.
    5. Be comfortable with yourself always. Awkward situations always make you feel uncomfortable. However, there is an easy way to prevent this from happening. If you are alone with a person you hardly know or even with a group of people you hardly know. Don’t worry about not having anything in common with them, just make light conversation, be friendly and have good eye contact and body language. If you stare awkwardly at them and hardly talk this will make you seem incapable of holding a conversation so just breathe, relax and tell yourself that this person is just like you.
    6. Be Happy. Try to always look on the bright side, be positive and smile.(unless you are in a situation where being happy would be rude, e.g funeral). No one can resist a happy person. This doesn’t mean be fake, or feel you have to hide your feelings. If something’s really bothering you, never feel you have to fake a smile, but make sue you try to see the best in things and show people that you’re a happy person. Wearing a smile on your face is the perfect cover and will instantly attract people to you. Even if you do not like a person, always smile at them because even if you don’t like them it sucks when they don’t like you.
    7. Never get caught up in being “popular”, people will see what you are doing and lose respect for you. A real popular person is a person who has a great personality and does not try hard to become popular. Having a dependable group of friends is always the key to getting more friends because you will always have these people to fall back on. Just remember not to forget about them when you make new friends and never use people in a nasty way because people will be able to tell and that will make you look tacky.
    8. Think about what makes you respect other people, if you want to be respected. Wear clothes that are stylish and are within your comfort zone. Avoid clothes that would only appeal to a particular group of people. Say things that are smart and witty but never act dumb that just makes you look incapable of holding a conversation.
    9. Never get too caught up in yourself. It is okay to believe you are the greatest. However, trust me, not many people are going to agree (That is not an insult, it is just that everyone thinks that they, themselves are the greatest). Never show off, it just looks silly and normally makes you look as though you have lost your cool. Be modest around people, but always accept compliments and give compliments as well.
    10. Be open to relationships. Never pass somebody off for being “not cool enough” or “too ugly” because normally these people are amazing and being friends with them will bring so much happiness to your life. Never think that just because somebody is a particular “type” of person (e.g emo, girly, preppy, weird, nerdy) people are going to think you are that type of person as well. In fact people will think you are great for being friends with so many different types of people. Don’t just try to be friends with people who are “above you”, if you think about it, the truly cool people are people who can’t be “gone above” so to be friends with someone better than you means that you do not think you are the best. Being friends with people “below you” will give you a confidence boost and not make you look like you are obsessed with getting a good name. That doesn’t mean that you can’t also be friends with other great people.

  3. what is the difference between proactive & reactive?

    Proactive thinking looks ahead to the future. It is the anticipation of an event that is known to happen. Reactive thinking is just that: an event occurs, and you react to it.

    In the business world, you are taught that you should be proactive rather than reactive to become successful. Being proactive is a skill that takes time and effort, however, to perfect.

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    (1) I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.我爱你,不是因为你是一个怎样的人,而是因为我喜欢与你在一起时的感觉。

    (2) No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won’t make you cry.

    (3) The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can’t have them.

    (4) Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

    (5) To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

    (6) Don’t waste your time on a man/woman, who isn’t willing to waste their time on you.

    (7) Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

    (8) Don’t try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.

    (9) Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

    (10) Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

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  5. 致我们终将远离的子女(翻译得太好了)
    2014-08-23 孕妇百科
    Kahlil Gibran On Children
    Your children are not your children.

    They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

    They come through you but not from you。

    And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

    You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

    For they have their own thoughts.

    You may house their bodies but not their souls.

    For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

    You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

    For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

    You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

    The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

    Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
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    15 Things All Dads of Daughters Should Know
    Justin Ricklefs 10/03/14 02:03 PM ET
    “I feel sorry for you when they become teenagers.” “Dude, you’re surrounded by women.” “What did you do to deserve that?”

    Being a dad of four daughters (we also have one son), I hear stuff like this almost daily. And honestly, I’m the one who feels sorry for people who think this way.

    Having daughters is one of the greatest joys I could imagine. We have a saying at our house that goes like this, “I love you more today than I did yesterday.” Raising girls is a privilege, not a burden.

    I certainly don’t have it all figured out, but I have learned 15 things about raising girls these last 11 years.

    1. She wants to be loved. More than she wants the stuff you can buy her or the things you can teach her, she wants you to love her. No one else on Earth can assume your role as daddy. Your daughter will let you down, make huge mistakes, and maybe even turn her back to you for a season, but don’t ever let her doubt your love for her. Look her in the eye and tell her you love her. Lots.

    2. You have an influence on her future partner. Scary thought, but the kind of man you are to her will have a direct impact on who she chooses to marry some day. For years, our third daughter would beg me to marry her when she grew up. I had to explain that I was already married to her amazing mother. If you’re doing it right, she’ll want to marry someone like you one day.

    3. Listen to her music. When my girls are in my car, you’ll be able to catch us rocking out to the following Pandora stations: Taylor Swift, One Direction, Cody Simpson, Kidz Bop Radio, Katy Perry, you get the point. Not stations I’d listen to on my own (with one exception — I love Taylor Swift), but when it lights them up, it lights me up. 4. She’s watching how you treat her mom. If you take one thing out of this entire list, make it this. One of the best things you can do for your daughter is to love her mom well. It’s easy to be child-centered. Running from one kid activity to another. But fight for your marriage and make it a priority. The seasons of life when I lose focus on dating Brooke (my wife) are also the same seasons when our children have more issues. I don’t think that’s coincidental. Love your wife, make time to date her, take her on trips, and show your kids that she is a bigger priority than they are. 5. Don’t shrink back as she grows up. Our oldest is almost 11, so we haven’t hit the dreaded teenage years, but I say bring them on. Dads who are further down the road than I am regret not being more emotionally engaged with their teenage daughters. It will be awkward for all of us, but I’m leaning right into it. Periods, boyfriends, shaving armpits, Snapchat, whatever it is. My girls won’t know any different than their dad being every bit as engaged when they’re 15 as he was when they were 5. Don’t disappear when their emotions and bodies start changing. 6. Teach her how to do a real push-up. I won’t be mistaken for Billy Blanks, but we take health and wellness seriously at our house. My girls aren’t wimps. They know how to do real push-ups. They play sports hard. They think “throwing like a girl” is a compliment, not an insult. They bring it. And more than the physical toughness, we’re raising mentally tough girls. Like their momma. In a world where femininity gets assigned far too often to princess dresses and fairy tales, my girls are tough as nails.

    7. Make memories. A friend once told me that my job is to be the Chief Memory Maker of the house. It’s morbid, but I have 50-60 years left on this Earth, tops. That’s not a ton of time, so I’m going to go hard and create as many memories with my girls as I possibly can. We celebrate big things like a 10-year-old trip, but we also take the little things seriously. Family movie nights on Friday nights. Big breakfast Saturdays. Hikes after church. It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate, but it does have to be intentional. Fill up your daughter’s emotional journal with memories of being with her dad. 8. Teach her that it’s not about her. Something amazing happens when we realize that the universe doesn’t spin around us. We’re not modeling it perfectly for our girls, but we’re trying to show them that life is best lived when we give ourselves away. To serve others. To go last. To not always have to be right. 9. Show up to her events. As dads of young daughters, most of us are building careers at the same time. So it’s not possible every single time, but make the effort to get to her stuff. Even if it’s not your favorite stuff. I hate the commercial of the dad at the daughter’s dance recital who is watching a football game on his phone. I love a good football game as much as the next guy, but clap as hard for your daughter’s recital as you would on your couch watching sports. 10. Proximity doesn’t equal presence. I’m guilty of forgetting this often. The simple fact that you’re there doesn’t mean you’re really there. Especially in an era of constant information and entertainment. Turn your phone off when you get home from work. Or at least put it in another room. Your daughter couldn’t care less about your Twitter feed, your emails, your fantasy football team, or your group texts. She cares about spending time with you. Playing with you. Being with you. 11. Do her hair and nails. Brooke does this 99 times out of 100, but I make it a point to tell all my girls that daddy can make a killer ponytail. And I can paint their nails like a champ. Heck, they’ve painted mine on many occasions as well. Show her that a man can be gentle. 12. Date her. I wish I could say I do this consistently, but even once every few months is better than not at all. Dating your daughter is critical to showing her how a man should treat a woman. Call me old school, but on my dates with my girls, I open the doors, pay the bills, look them in the eye, and make them feel like a million bucks. This doesn’t have to cost a ton of money. A walk around the block. A short bike ride. A trip to the ice cream store. Doesn’t have to be fancy, but again, it must be intentional. 13. Her heart is more beautiful than her appearance. Guess what, dad? It’s your job to tell your daughter, and then remind her a million times, that what’s on the inside of her is what will make her go far in life. The heart is how we talk about it at our house, but it can be her character, her self-worth, her core. Raising girls in this sensual world isn’t easy, but they don’t have to settle for the belief that to be pretty means you must fit into a size zero or show almost every piece of your skin when you walk into a room. 14. Don’t blink. Kenny Chesney was right. She calls you daddy. Enjoy that role — it flies by. 15. Will you forgive me? I forget 1-14 more than I would like to admit. I’m doing my best. You are too. But when I blow it, when I hurt her feelings, and when my intentions were better than my actions, I’m learning to ask her for forgiveness. Not a simple apology, but a sincere plea for forgiveness. Model being a dad who gets down on her level and admits that you don’t have it all together. She’ll forgive you for that.

    Dads, your role is a precious one. Love your daughters well.

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  8. 各种病情中英文表述



    He feels headache, nausea and vomiting. (他觉得头痛、恶心和想吐。)

    He is under the weather. (他不舒服,生病了。)

    He began to feel unusually tired. (他感到反常的疲倦。)

    He feels light-headed. (他觉得头晕。)

    She has been shut-in for a few days. (她生病在家几天了。)

    Her head is pounding. (她头痛。)

    His symptoms include loss of appetite, weight loss, excessive fatigue, fever and chills. (他的症状包括没有食欲、体重减轻、非常疲倦、发烧和发冷。)

    He feels exhausted or fatigued most of the time. (他大部份时间都觉得非常疲倦。)

    He has been lacking in energy for some time. (他感到虚弱有段时间了。)

    He feels drowsy, dizzy and nauseated. (他觉得昏昏欲睡,头晕目眩和想吐。)

    He feels as though everything around him is spinning. (他感到周围的东西都在打转。)

    He has noticed some loss of hearing. (他发觉听力差些。)

    She has some pains and itching around her eyes. (她眼睛四周又痛又痒。)

    (2) 伤风感冒:

    He has been coughing up rusty or greenish-yellow phlegm. (他咳嗽带有绿黄色的痰。)

    His eyes feel itchy and he has been sneezing. (他眼睛发痒,而且一直在打喷嚏。)

    He has a fever, aching muscles and hacking cough. (他有发烧,筋骨酸痛和常常咳嗽。) (hacking = constant)

    He coughed with sputum and feeling of malaise. (他咳嗽有浓痰,而且觉得很虚弱。) (malaise = debility)

    He gets a cold with a deep hacking cough. (他伤风咳嗽。)

    He has a headache, aching bones and joints. (他头痛,骨头、关节也痛。)

    He has a persistent cough. (他不停地在咳。) 或

    He has bouts of uncontrollable coughing. (他一阵阵的咳嗽,难以控制。)

    He has hoarse and has lost his voice sometimes. (他声音嘶哑,有时失声。)

    He has a sore throat and a stuffy nose. (他嗓子疼痛而且鼻子不通。)

    His breathing is harsh and wheezy. (他呼吸时,有气喘似的呼哧呼哧作响。)

    He has a stabbing pain that comes on suddenly in one or both temples. (有时突然间太阳穴刺痛。)

    He has a runny nose, sneezing or a scratchy throat. (他流鼻水,打喷嚏和喉咙沙哑。)

    (3) 女性疾病:

    She has noticed one lump in her breast. (她发觉乳房有个肿块。)

    There is a hard, swollen lump on her right breast. (她右乳房有肿块。)

    Her left breast is painful and swollen. (她左乳房疼痛且肿大。)

    She has heavy bleeding with her periods. (她月经来的很多。)

    Her vaginal discharge is white or greenish-yellow and unpleasant smelling. (她阴道分泌物带白色或绿黄色,而且气味不好。)

    She has noticed occasional spotting of blood between periods. (在月经来的前后,她有时也发觉有滴滴达达的流血。)

    She has some bleeding after intercourse. (性交后有出血。)

    She feels some vaginal itching. (她感到阴部发痒。)

    She has painful periods and abnormal vaginal discharge. (她月经来时疼痛,而且阴道有不正常的分泌物。)


    He urinates more frequently than usual.(他小便比平时多。)

    He has difficulty controlling his bladder.(他很难控制小便。)(bladder 是膀胱)

    There are some lumps on his testicles. (他的?丸有些硬块。)

    He has had burning or pain when he urinates.(他小便时感到发烫和疼痛。)

    He is passing less urine than usual.(他小便比平时少。)

    He has had painless swelling in his scrotum.(他的阴囊有不痛的肿大。)

    He feels lack of interest in sex.(他自觉对性的兴趣大减。)

    He has difficulty starting his urine flow.(他小便不畅通。)

    His urine stream is very weak and slow.(他小便流动得很慢很弱。)

    He dribbles a little urine after he has finished urinating.(他小便后,还会有少量零星地滴下。)

    He has had some discharge from his penis.(他的阴茎排出一些流脓。)

    His urine is cloudy and it smells strong.(他的小便混浊,而且气味不好。)

    He has a dull heavy ache in the crotch.(他的胯部感到隐痛。)

    He has a small leakage of urine when he coughs or sneezes.(他咳嗽或打喷嚏时,会有点泄尿。)

    He has trouble urinating.(他小便有困难。)

    (5) 手脚毛病:

    His both hands and feet ache all over. (他两手两脚都很酸痛。)

    He has pain on the sole of his feet. (他脚底很痛。)

    There is a wart-like lump on the sole of right foot. (我右脚底有个像肉疣般的硬块。)

    His ankles look puffy and they pit when he presses them with his finger. (他的足踝好象肿了,用手按,就有小坑痕。) (pit = small dent form)

    (句里的 they 和 them 都是指 ankles)

    The pain in his left foot is accompanied by redness and swelling. (左脚酸痛,并有红肿。)

    The joints near his fingernails and knuckles look swollen. (指头和指节旁边的关节,似乎有肿大。)

    He has numbness and tingling in his hands and fingers. (他的手和指头感到麻木和刺痛。)

    His legs become painful following strenuous exercise. (激烈运动后,他的腿就痛。)

    His knee is misshapen or unable to move. (他的膝盖有点畸形,也不能动。)

    There are some swellings in his armpit. (他的腋窝肿大。)

    He is troubled with painful muscles and joints. (他的筋骨和关节都痛。)

    She is troubled by the pains in the back and shoulders. (她的后背和肩膀都痛。)

    His knee has been bothering him for some time. (他的膝盖不舒服,已有一段时间了。)

    (6) 睡眠不好:

    He is sleeping poorly.(他睡不好)

    He has difficulty in sleeping, inability to concentrate.(他不易入睡,也难集中精神。)

    It is usually hard for her to fall asleep when she goes to bed at night.(她晚上就寝,很难入睡。)

    He wakes during the night or early morning and finds it difficult to fall asleep again.(他晚间或清早醒来后,再也不能入睡。)

    He has nightmares occasionally.(他有时做噩梦。)

    (7) 呼吸方面:

    His breathing has become increasingly difficult.(他呼吸越来越困难。)

    He has to breathe through his mouth.(他要用口呼吸。)

    He is short of breath, even when he has not been exercising, he is breathless.(他喘气;即使不运动,他也是上气不接下气。)

    His cough is more like wheezing.(他的咳嗽有呼哧呼哧的响声。)

    His cough is dry, producing no phlegm.(他是干咳,没有痰。)

    He has coughed up blood.(他咳嗽有血。)

    His nose stuffed up when he had a cold.(他感冒时鼻子就不通。)

    He coughs up a lot of phlegm (thick spit) on most days.(他多半时间咳出浓浓的痰。)

    He has a feeling of tightness in the chest or a feeling that he is suffocating.(他胸部觉得闷闷的,好象透不过气来。)

  9. 在北京的老外竟然用英文寫了一副中國對聯:
    上聯是:subway, railway, highway,way way to die
    下聯是:officer, announcer, professor, sir sir to lie
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  10. When You’re In A Good Relationship, You Learn These 10 Things
    I’d had serious relationships before meeting my fiance, with a couple lasting for years. I thought I was an adult; I thought I knew how to be a great girlfriend. Meeting someone I had a serious connection with taught me that nothing I had experienced before was real. True love feels different than casual relationships – even if those relationships lasted for years (often well past their expiration date!). When you’re in a good relationship, you learn things. You act differently; you think as part of a team, not as an individual making your way through the world. You’ll be more understanding and accepting of your partner, instead of just getting frustrated with them like you may have with past relationships.

    1. Misunderstandings are inevitable.

    Misunderstandings are going to happen. If you take your partner’s words one way, then learn they meant something totally different, don’t punish them. Let it go. Bringing it up all the time is only going to bruise the relationship and cause communication problems later. Sometimes what you say or do will be taken the wrong way, and you’ll get frustrated that your partner doesn’t understand. Take a step back and realize it’s not a big deal. Misunderstandings are made to be swept under the rug because they’re so minor. They only become problems if you let them grow bigger and mean more in the scope of your relationship. Be laid back and forgive misunderstandings.

    2. Learn to trust them.

    You have to trust your partner. Why would you share your life with someone when you think they’re doing something wrong every time you turn your back? If you don’t trust your partner to be faithful, honest, caring, or anything else, then you’re not in a good relationship. The best relationships begin with a deep trust, and even if problems come up (and they will!), the trust is strong enough to keep you together.

    3. Let yourselves miss each other.

    You’re in love, so you want to be together all the time! It’s so fun to cuddle all night and be together all day, but when will you have time to experience different things? When you go to separate workplaces or schools, you experience things that will give you something to talk about later. When you go out with your friends and your partner spends time with theirs, you have time and space to yourself and come back to each other refreshed. You have a chance to miss each other, and it helps you really understand the value of your relationship. Missing someone is great because getting to see them after that period will make you so happy and so sure of your relationship.

    4. Encourage growth and change.

    In a good relationship, both partners are encouraged to grow and change. You have one life to live – you should explore it to the fullest! If you want to quit your job and go back to school, your partner should support you. If you want to try something new or go back to something old, you should find support in your relationship. And you should give this support in return. Encourage your partner to explore hobbies and interests and meet new people. If you want your partner to stay the same, you’re going to have a very boring life together.

    5. Compromising doesn’t mean you’re weak.

    Compromising doesn’t mean “giving in.” It doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the fight. In fact, it’s the opposite. Do you know how hard it is to compromise sometimes? You want your way because it sounds right and makes sense to you. Your partner is way off base with their suggestions. Take a step back and look at the argument diplomatically. What’s the logical conclusion? If your partner is right, don’t be afraid to say so. Accept their way, or modify both of your solutions to be half and half. The important thing is not getting your way, it’s staying in your relationship and helping it grow. Compromising will definitely help your relationship grow.

    6. Admit your weaknesses.

    Your partner doesn’t expect you to be a superhero, and hopefully you don’t expect that of them! We’re all human; we all have flaws. It’s ok to let these show. In fact, to have a stable, serious relationship, you need to let your weaknesses be known. Your partner will be more sensitive to things that bother you, and can help build you up in areas where you need some help.

    7. Sometimes you can only accept things, not fix them.

    People have baggage. You have some. Your partner has some. Can you go back and erase all of this? Nope! You’re stuck with it, and have to learn to deal with it. Some things are easier to get over than others, but the reality is that sometimes, you can’t fix things. You can’t make problems go away. You have to accept them and get over them and move on, or else your relationship will crumble.

    8. Forgive quickly and truly.

    Whenever you have a fight, don’t worry about who wins or who loses. Learn from the fight – from what was said as much as from how it was resolved. Once you learn from a fight, you can apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid trouble later. That’s all well and good, but you’re not done! Forgive your partner! Forgive yourself. The fight is over, you’re past it, now let it go. Never hold anything against your partner because the resentment will build until you don’t want to be with them.

    9. Never expect anything.

    Don’t expect your partner to read your mind, or to bring you breakfast in bed, or to offer to wash the dishes. It’s not going to happen. You can’t expect anything from anyone – you have to make it known. Communicate. Make sure your partner knows what you expect from the relationship, as well as your opinions on a wide variety of issues. This will help them act considerate towards you, but still – don’t expect anything!

    10. Show your feelings.

    The worst thing you can do in a relationship is play games. Don’t tease your partner; don’t “reward” good deeds with love and affection. You have to make sure your partner always feels loved. You can be happy with them or be mad at them – it doesn’t matter – they just need to feel loved. They need to know your feelings in the moment as well, don’t get me wrong. But make sure you’re showing your feelings in a way that they won’t be misunderstood (back to #1!).

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